I Need You

From the journal archives: 9th September 2020

I need you - The cage that shackles your heart

I need you. Those three words sound so romantic in a book or movie, but in real life, it is one of the most dangerous phrases.

I need you.

The sentence implies that the person is a necessity to live, but the truth is that he or she isn't going to be a need forever. One day, you will realise that you are stronger than you thought you were, that you don't need this person anymore.

So what happens then?

What happens when you don't need them anymore?

Do you throw them away? Or do you pretend that you still need them?

Because, emotionally, it's hard to walk out of their life, but to pretend is to turn them into the shackles that bind your feet.

What I'm trying to get at is that needing someone is toxic. So, instead of looking for someone you believe you need, find the people that you want.

The major difference between these two is that needing someone means holding a belief that you require their constant help to overcome the challenges of your life, but wanting someone means an awareness of your strengths and capabilities of fighting the challenges of life and allowing the people you choose to be there in the sidelines to assist you as you fight for yourself.

In truth, you have to be the main character of your story, because in every other story, you are just on the sidelines.

What you need is to understand your strengths and learn to value them. You need to realise that life is good even when it's just you, but when you want someone, it is because they make this good life even better.

Don't make them your world,

Let them be the parts

That makes your world better

Then you thought it could be.

by Anushka Umap